Heroes or Villains

~“It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more 'manhood' to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.”....

It's good that I'm not angry..though I sense that lots of people are angry with me. In the stories that we weave we usually characterize other people as Heroes or villains in the tales. oh what a tangled web we weave. It really isn't that simple People are bad guys with a soul nor are they angels with a mean streak. They are flesh and blood three-dimensional people. It takes a big woman to show all your cards to wonder"why don't they just like me" not to ourselves but out-loud for others to hear and to dissect. 

The above quote is signinficant to me right now. I'm learning how to abide by thought-out principles when it comes to treating people with kindness and seeing them the way God sees them. My blind reflex is to say with hell with people espcially to hell with Passive-aggressive people they have no place and what I need to do.But now I'm learning how to treat people with grace even if it seems that they do not deserve it. 

Can you look past the villainousness nature of people. 

Simple Thought for the day:

 Life is not simple, and people can't be boxed into being either heroes or villains.

Dismal Hopefulness

A pessimist is a person who looks at the dark side of things and a optimist looks on the light side of things. People are either described as a half glass empty or full kind of people. Pessimist tend to think they are right that the world is going to hell in a hand basket and there is no need for hope. I don't know why pessimist think that there stance is so realistic but it's probably because optimistism seem so unrealistic. Everything is not sunny...who knows if it will all be okay..it might just end up badly? 

Today someone ask me what my world view was in relation to this. Actually they said "you seem to think that the world is sad, that everything is sad" 

The actual answer to how I view the world is an oxymoron..it's paradoxical but I think that most true and good things in life are paradoxical in nature(Godhead, three in one.. explain that without paradox) So my anwer to how I view the world is I have a dismal hopefulness. Darkness and bleakness are part of the picture but there is hope in every situation, in every relationship and in every story. The sky is not falling but there is not rainbows and butterfly all the time either. I think living in one of those two boxes of pessimist or optimist is not realistic at all. 

Simple Truth: A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame someone else

For Today. For Tomorrow.

It's my birthday tomorrow...no one here can know. I was born this Friday, 26 years ago. And I feel stuck watching history repeating Who am I? Just a kid who knows she's needy. Let me know that you hear me, Let me know your touch, Let me know that you love me..Let that be enough.

Losing you is effortless.

And suddenly you've become a part of the past..you're becoming the part that don't last..I'm losing you and it's effortless.
Today my thoughts settled on friendships. Losing friendships is so effortless. People become part of the past quickly when no effort is put in by either party to repair or maintain the friendship..it goes the way of the past like ship in water. Floating effortlessly by.
I'm typically of the school of friendship that it takes effort to repair and maintain and I usually repair and maintain even if it seems like the other person doesn't care as much as me about whatever situation lack of situation just lapse of time that is occurring.
 But lately I have been atypical in my approaches to friendship. I actually don't like it. But something in me is dying and I don't know what to do about it. it's a part that hurts me more than it hurts others, maintaining friendships is hard, soul crushing work at times, but the outcome of it was usually rewarding. So even though it hurt to be that person, I was okay being that person. Right now I'm not that person. I don't even know how to be that person. Something broke and I've entered a territory that I don't like being in.
Not to say I don't have friends..I'm just not doing much paddling. I got to snap out of it before Project 26 starts.
Project 26...More on that later and I'm looking for a better name.
Simple Truth/thought for Today: If things are not going well with you, begin your effort at correcting the situation by carefully examining the service you are rendering, and especially the spirit in which you are rendering it.

Honesty...can you handle it?

The Movie: A Few Good Men" The scene: The lawyer played by Tom Cruise yelled to the man on the stand played by Jack Nicholson "Give me the truth, I want the truth" The general yells back "You can't handle the truth"

The scene played out the way we treat truth these days. We doll it out when we think people can handle it and keep it to ourselves when it seems to harsh or it doesn't fit in line with how we want to portray ourselves.

It amazing when I see the magnitudes of lies and half-truths masquerading as niceties. Why don't you just tell her please by another shirt that one make you look pregnant (and you're so not!) Why let your friend buy the ugly shirt all because she is love with it and you want to be "nice" don't we see that niceness kills.

I'm not saying be cruel and say hurtful things. I'm just saying honesty is not morally right it is also highly efficient. You tell the truth..it hurts and true some people can't handle the truth. But as long as the intent isn't to bruise and hurt and malign the truth is the best policy.

I have my own policy with the truth. If telling someone the truth gives even an ounce of pleasure..I don't do it. It has crossed the line into cruel category that I don't want to live in.

I believe that if the world were to become more truth tellers we wouldn't be so bruised and battered when someone tells us the truth. Also we would know how to do it not keep the truth bottled up so much inside that when we finally get fed up it comes out in one angry sweep.

Don't keep it in...let the truth out.

Simple truth for today: Writing a paper at 1am is a bad idea...you wake up with a jumbled mess on your hands.